The one that get away...

Source: The Manila Times
By: Mark J. Macapagal

In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with…and the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose. I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little nice ties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact ……….. Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.
So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come.

Hopefully you’re single, but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn’t matter. All you know is that you’ve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about. You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, “What if they were here today?” You’ll wonder, “What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?”
That’s what the one that got away is, the biggest “What if?” you’ll have in your life. If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a “might have been,” but it happens… Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different.

If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I’m thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, “Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away.”


All my Only Dreams - The Wonders

Every night I pray
I'll have you here someday
I'll count the stars tonight
And hope with all my might
And when I close my eyes
You'll be right by my side
If I could only have one wish
You'd be the girl whose lips I'd kiss
All my only dreams

And when I close my eyes
You'll be right by my side
If I could have just one request
Stay with me girl I confess
All my only dreams

Any waking hour it seems
I only have you in my dreams
So every night I'll pray
I'll have you here one day
I'll count the stars tonight
And hope with all my might
That when I close my eyes
You'll be right by my side
If I could have just one request
Stay with me girl I confess
All my only dreams

*Dulu pas belum jadian Rey nyanyi lagu iniii mulu depan gw.. pas udah jadian dia ngasih tau kalo lagu ini buat gw* 

mau garuk2 aspal: 

silakan di KLIK LANGSUNG di lagunya

Cerita Weekend...

ehmm... cerita wikend nih...

Wikend lalu dimuali di hari Jumat... yang sok sibuk.. asik..

Seharian di resto.. dari siang sampaii malam.. engga sih.. cuma sampai jam 9an lah.. trus kerumah mama..
ngurus pesanan Mas Daned  by the waaayyy.. I love this wedding website.. uhhh so kerenn... ga expose kekayaan, ga expose sampai gimana gimana.. ga bridezilla.. ehehheheeh..

So Mas Daned pesan buku acara misa like mine.. (ahhaaaayyy tersanjungg) dan souvenir pernikahan... anddddd the most interesting thing is the souvenir.. souvenirnya POHON.. yessss pohon aja looooor... dia mau pohon Jambu Bol berumur 3 bulan, setiinggi 15cm.. dikasi pot dan dikasi packaging yang ciamik.. pertama gw yang WTF? hehehehe.. .jahat yah? cuma setelah ngobrol. jawaban yang bersangkutan adalah "ini wedding go green ras" jawanban gw: "ooohhh okay masss" then I salute this couple... *take a bow*

Trussss... lanjut ke Kemang looo kita.. hahahahahahahaha..dasar anak gaholll.. beli topi buat papah.. hehehe.. dasar.. disana liat banyakk anak anak Abeghe jaman sekarang :

*rambut belah tengah, baju kegedean, celana super pendek, sepeda fixie, rokok marlboro black menthol, pake bb* 

buanyakkk banget banget,, parahhh...
truss dari situ,,, pulang,.. udah jam 2 an deh.. hehehehe...

trussss SABTUnya..
seharian dirumah... yang mana kerjaan gw mostly TIDUR... indahhhhnyooo..
trussss malem ketemu Neng Tia di PIM, lanjutt ke Cirendeu ultah Karen.. disana makan makan makan.. minum minum minum.. enyakkk.. pulang udah setengahhhhh ke awan.. hehehehe..

Okay.. MINGGU...
ke Giant CBD Bintaro sama Fatty Boy and Rey + Krishna...
Dihasilkan...Potong rambut.. Bapak sama anak... nanti foto menyusul.. makan some kind of Hoka Hoka bento ala Giant.. hehehe... enak lumayan.. namanya Dinorino..
trusss isi PSP... udah deh.. pulang.. hihihi..
Review ga penting yah?
BODO,,,

Ehem Ehem.. Pengumuman Penting!!

Sodara Sodari...

Mengingat, dan menimbang saran dari @dansya yang menampar (biar drama dikit ah) bahwa harusnya tulisan gw di blog :

http://www.giannifamily.blogspot.com

Itu kocak dan lucu apalagi nggak MEMBOSANKAN karena dikirain CUMA isi daily life gw and my family

Makaaaa.. kuberanikan diri.. ini dia baru namana personal branding...

http://www.giannifamily.blogspot.com/

menjadiiiii :

http://ignatialarasati.blogspot.com/

 

Jangan sedihh.. isisnya tetap lah sampah... tapi gw akan lebih bebas mengutarakan my thoughts!! hihihi 

SEKIAN

ini pertma kali,,,,, gw nulis on this blog,,, my fam's blog tpatnya,,,,,,,, abis emang ga pernah aja.....sapa tau nanti2 jadi addict,,,,, ha3x,,,,

mau nuis apa yaaaaa................oh ya, insomnia...... gatau knapa,,, akir ini gw jadi tdur larut malemmm,,,,sadaaaap!! kayak novel ya pake kata2 larut..... iang aja tidur mnjelang pagi gitu... sama aja ya,,, bahasa novel juga............

ok,, let's cut d crab..... mungkin insom ini pengaruh dari kbanyakan aktivitas yang blum klarin th daylight kali ya,,, or akibat sisaa2 knakalan jaman dulu,,,,, wkwkwkwkwkk..... gw ga mau buka aib pribdi disini laaaaaah,,,, nononononono ;-)

padahal stiap pagi gw musti masuk kantor maximal jam 8 pagi,,,, tuk ngajar pre-school di daerah tanjungduren,,,, ooooooops!! gw upa introduce myself ya,,,, biar muka preman gini .... saya tuh pengajar looooooh!! ( it's in the blood man! juz like my mom *alm* )
tapi istri saya laras d best loh,,,, ga bosen2nya ia mengguncang2 badan saya dan mnarik slimut saya stiap jam 5 pagi,,, aga suaminya yang tercinta bangun di pagi2 buta skitar jam 4.30an lah.....

smoga pagi ini istrikuw sayang itundak lupa untuk 'mengguncang2' diriku,,,, ha3x.......

enough 4 today yah broer and sus,,,,, ( gaya anak 8o'an kalo manggil pren nya ;-) )

gbu,,

CHERRIOOO............... :-)

hEy ho..

Enaknya punya blog yang ini :
1. udah ga kena peer pressure, walau banyak blog asoyyy gw teteppp jalan dengan isi blog gw, and semua ketidaksempurnaan gw
2. kapan aja gw ngeblog asik aja tuh..
3. skip selama apapun itu ga perduli *gabutuhpembaca*
ga enaknya adalah:
1. suka suka tetep pingin nulis soal keluarga sendiri
2. kalo nulis soal diri sendiri gimana yaa...egois ga yaa?

karena enaknyua ada 3, dan ga enaknya ada 2.. hajarrrrrrrrrrrrr blehhhh

ribet
banget
akhiir akhir ini
baru keliatan kerjaaan kerjaannya..
jadi boro boro ngeblog... mandi aja jarang.. alasan ckckck
yuuuukkk kita ngeblog lagi yuuu

9 bulan kemudian....

I must say... bingung kalo harus nulis soal my life... hal hal yang ga penting bakal kluar mulai dari jeleknya dan sebagainya.. yang mau gw tulis disini adaalah "9 mos after i said i do"
mau tanya bedanya sama sebbelum nikah padahal udah samen leven for 3 years? yeah.. semakin sering berantem.. banyak banget persepsi yang aneh aneh... dulu gw punya kontrol akan hidup kita berdua.. skr sms ini datang tadi siang: 
"susah juga ya ma kalau kamu ga mau nurut sama aku.. pikiran aku cuma besok besoknya aja gimana; its time for u to start listen to me my wife" 
seorang suami gw yang selama ini gw kira dia selalu setuju (apa pura pura setuju) sama omongan gw.. soal kerjaan, bisnis, bday party dan sebagainya.. skr dia mulai menunjukan giginya.. apalagi dengan suara yang pelan, baik banget ngmngnya.. i think now he know me so well (gw ga offensive buat satu band lhooo)
dan gw skr juga lebih mulai mau nurut sama omongan dia, mulai dari semua gw pikir cuma omongan gw yang make sense (kebiasaan anak sulung ini).. 
selama ini gw ngiri sama semua blog blog yang gw datangi dimana they lead a very happy life  (buat para newlywed)... cuma gw skr baru tau kalo emang semua itu bener bener butuh proses.. butuh jatuh bangun, butuh ribut ga penting, butuh punggung2an... dan yang paling penting butuh pengorbanan.. 
yahh.. gw cuma mau bilang semoga semua yang gw perjuangkan itu bisa jadi berkat buat hidup gw, Gio, dan Rey... aminnnnn

Christmas of Christmas

mau nulis soal "hari merah hijau" rasanya agak -___-  deh... 

okay.. everything is under control... setelah hari kerja yang menggila thank to babe, dan atasan ku yang aduhai itu... tanggal 23 malam saya pulang kerumah, setelah kongkow kongkow bersama Kakak dan Peramal-yang-tak-mau-disebut-namanya-itu.. sampai rumah leyeh leyeh dengan pikiran alias angan angan tukang cendol.. besok malam natal... pagi sempetin beli kado fatty boy dulu ah di PIM.. abis itu siang nyalon, trus make sure sama Rey "Pah, gereja Theresia ya jam 5, abis itu natalan ke Menteng, trus pergi ama anak anak mudika Theresia" dan Rey: "okok" 
Kenyataan: Bangun jam 10.30 siang.. (hehe... jatahan dulu donkss smp jam 3pagi) trussss... langsung sok sok bangun dengan gaya "HOME ALONE I" gitu kan... dan...kebawah.. eh kiss kiss sama gio, mum kopi, rey denger radio, ketawa tawa... mmm trus Rey harus pergilah dia... aduh kelamaan reviewnya jd lupa... n tiba tiba si Menik (my cousin) bilang, "Cul, temenin gw ke SMS yoo.." langsung saya lupa sama semua angan angan indah yang kalo dijalani secara disiplin waktu yang tersisa pas liat jam adalah jam 1 siang, which cuma cukup buat nyalon and siap siap ke gereja.. hadehhh... di dapur ibu sama semua sibukk potong ini itu.. gw cuma yang sambil nyruput kopi melihat dengan pandangan tidak tertarik dan melengos ke kamar mandi.. kalo kata ade gw "dasar wanita jadi jadian,," haha.. 
ok.. sampailah SMS yang nun jauh itu,,,mmm dari Bintaro rumah eyke sih ga terlalu jauh.. cuma tetep ajaaa.. huaa deh.. ok.. smp sana ke foodcourt, dannn sok sok and jadi singaporean yang mesen "Carrot Cake" hadehhhhhh,,,dan it taste like SH**
okay.. suksessss merubah rencana Gereja, dari jam 5 jadi jam 9 malam -___-
hadehhh... truss.. pulang, ngibrit ganti baju, dandan dsb.. gerejalah kita di San Mare dekat rumah (iya, kenapa??? aatc emang Theresia, tapi ujung2nya di San Mare).. disana ngantuk2 ga konsen selama misa, pas misa kelar ketemu Mas Nugie, Arka, sama Mbak Shinta.. anddddd Mbak Sinta is preggyyyy... yaoloooh.. udah 6 Bulan.. cuss deh ah..
Lanjuttt perjalanan ke Theresia, salam salam ama Papi Teddy, dsb dsb.. trusss lanjut ke GADING!!! iye gw emosi jiwa nulis gading.. ga jelas emang tuh anak anak mudika theresia.. cyape deh gw.. kenapa sih ga di daerah selatan.. at least TENGAH!!
k, kelar jam 1.30... dan langsung cusss.... pulang.. hadehhh smp bintaro jam 3 pagi.. -__-
okok.. tanggal 25, December 2010... this day is Fu**** Busy... pagi udah rempong2 dirumah menyambut open house.. ok.. diawali dengan pengambilan Roast Ham di Kem Chick kemang yang digawangi olah Ian dan Rey.. hadehh.. tengah jalan mereka dimandatkan beli kue di Bakery majestyk.. (uenakk fruit cake nyaaa) trusss... mereka pulang.. dannn sampai rumah suami gw itu dikerjain lagi harus ambil ayam kodok (ini kenapa makanan buanyak benerrr) wuihhh.....
pokoknya menu malam itu: 
a. Roast Ham --> Kemchick Kemang 
b. Aglio Olio --> My Sis 
c. Barbecue grill Chicken --> My Sis
d. Potato with Parsley and Onion --> My Sis
e. Christmas Soup --> ini makanan tradisi keluarga kita :D
f. Salad --> My Mom 
g. Ayam Kodok --> dari Jl, Asem Cipete 
h. Sate Ayam --> depan Graha Taman Bintaro 
gilaaa.. semua org kuenyanggg parah...senenggg dapet kadooo yihhhiiiiiee... 
HAPPY CHRISTMAS EVRYBODYYY :D